And yet, as you yourself pointed out (“it’s others’ reactions, too.”), it’s spot on. “mixed race” people get it the worst, because racists from eithr side (and there are plenty on ALL sides) hate them.

Considering the way genetics work (and not having seen a picture), it’s quit possibl that is it theirs – genetic testing is in order, and in fact, if it were to come back postive (they are the parents), then they have been loudly slandering the clinic.

Also, there is the possibility listed above (the mother’s mistake, not the clinic).

It does seem MOST likely (and by a good margin) that the clinic screwed up, though. If so, damages should indeed be assesed, but the parents are acting like total [expletives].

And I THINK that “sperm donor” fathers hav been addressed in law and have no rights… wouldn’t stop a lawsuit, though.

Word to the father: Be a man, do the right thing. Love the child unconditionally, immediately, and don’t let the thought of it’s paternity ever affect any of your decisions. You’re married. It’s your wife’s child. Deal or divorce.

If any of the above conditions cannot be met, please put the child up for adoption so it at least stands a chance of having a good life.

Frank

“I can’t believe that so many people will line up to criticise this family. They have a legitimate grievance and a huge one! If I paid a clinic to provide invitro fertilisation services of my sperm and my wife’s egg, and ended up a public [cuckold] by raising not just another man’s child but a child that is obviously so as it is of another race, I would have a HUGE problem with that and so would the vast majority of reasonable, compassionate and non-racist people.

It is not a problem easily solved by dropping the kid off at an orphanage or adoption agency. Mom carried it for 9 months and it is her biological child. Dad bonded to it while in utero before he knew that he had paid to get cuckolded and even if he didn’t, can’t ignore his wife’s feelings. Yet he can’t just decide to ignore the obvious fact that their famliy, including the child, will be dealing with this for generations. Also, note that mixed race children are very very hard for adoption agencies to place. That says something about the extra social burden this child will face. The lawsuit will not let on to her that her conception is a mistake–that will soon be obvious to her regardless. No matter how much they love this child and work to do right by her, they have been seriously wronged.

It does not matter if anyone else thinks that they ought to be just as happy with a healthy child who is not their own. That is not what they set out to do or paid for, and that is not a normal risk of the procedure. Res ipsa loquitur. The only question is the amount of the damages.”

And like Nevins, I wonder about this baby’s origins. Was it a mistake at the fertility clinic? Maybe it was, and maybe it was mommy’s mistake and this is a way of covering it up while profiting? Maybe I’m too cynical.

That’s some nasty speculation. Raising a bi-racial child is more than just the parents’ reaction–its others’ reactions too.

Let’s not forget who the victims are here. And no, offering the kid up for an adoption is a silly argument as well.

The clinic made a mistake that never should be made.

These ‘parents’ suck. I hope to God the kid never reads this stuff when they grow up.

What they do not seem to realize is that at one point this child will eventually find out and then what?

I guess from the example of the child’s parents, she’ll sue.

FWIW: I would love to hear the judge ask “despite the obvious mistake, why have you not given up the child for adoption, since you claim that the child’s very existance causes you harm and emotional distress to such a great degree.” Sometimes you have to get past the legal posturing by calling it for what it is.

I’d go after this on the technical merits of the case, that’s more than enough to do without looking too abominable