Comments on: “I learned not to have kids…It will make you go broke”

By: Ron Miller

Ron Miller — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 17:55:29 +0000

“Why is there no right for noncustodial parents to relinquish their parental rights and obligations?”

So you can just abandon your child because you don’t have custody? Seriously, NL7? So you can bring into the world people who can’t care for themselves yet you can later decide you have no obligation to them?

By: Don

Don — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 15:07:45 +0000

My State Department of Health and Welfare regularly screwed up my child support calculations. I got the formula that our State Supreme Court had implemented State wide and I always came out less than half of what the State said I needed to pay.

I walked my Lawyer through the math and showed him where the error was in the spreadsheet the State was using. It was always in the same place. If no parent had more than 75% custody, they were supposed to be calculating percentage of custody as part of the calculation. Their spreadsheet always ignored that.

After the third time of the State trying to explain to a Judge why I had to show them where their spreadsheet was coming up with wrong answers, my attorney said to me, “I bet that there are quite a few people over paying because of this, you think I should start a class action lawsuit?” I suggested to him that most people he knows currently like him, and if he did that, there were going to be a lot of people very angry with him. And even if he won, he still might lose because “it was in the best interest of the child for the payments to stay where they were set”.

Now I have full custody and don’t get hassled by the State anymore.

By: aaaa

aaaa — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 12:20:24 +0000

@NL7 You can trade away your parental rights if there is somebody willing to adopt the child. If your ex has a new partner and that partner wants to adopt your child, then it is possible.

The original partner then has no rights and responsibilities. It is called stepparent adoption.

By: wfjag

wfjag — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 00:04:33 +0000

@NL7:
There is. It’s called getting a vasectomy.

By: NL7

NL7 — Sun, 20 Jan 2013 23:36:15 +0000

Why is there no right for noncustodial parents to relinquish their parental rights and obligations? Adoption lets custodial parents relinquish their children, and abortion does the same for pregnant women. There ought to be an equivalent for absentee parents to trade away their parental rights in exchange for avoiding parental obligations.

Except that the state pays the costs of low-income kids, particularly support payments. So the state spends its energy trying to find others to pay, rather than caring about how families are arranged or how familial contracts should be interpreted and enforced.

By: great unknown

great unknown — Sun, 20 Jan 2013 18:58:52 +0000

“Abandon All Constitutional Rights, Ye Males Who Enter Here.”
Motto over the entrance to Family Court.